Martha, part 2 November 9, 2007Posted by Teen Atheist in anecdotes, friends, issues, school.
Tags: atheism, Martha, religion
I met up with my religious friend Martha for the first time in months. During one particularly quiet moment when we sat on the steps, feeling the wind in our faces, I decided that it probably wasn’t a good idea to keep this part of myself hidden from someone I trust.
Me: “How do you feel about atheists?”
Martha: “I don’t have anything against them, though I do kind of feel bad for them since they don’t have someone to believe in.”
Me: “Yeah, it would probably be easier to have someone omnipotent to turn to in times of hardship.”
Martha: “Or someone to blame. I blame God all the time.”
Me (laughing): “Yeah. Um, I have to tell you something.”
Martha: “What is it?”
Me: “I’m an atheist.”
Me: “Yup. You’re not mad?”
Martha: “Why would I be mad?”
The sad thing about coming out for me is that I often act like my atheism is something I have to apologize for. It’s certainly not, but I do often have to brace myself for the worst, especially after facing rejection from my own family. I told her about getting kicked out of Christmas this year, and how I essentially lost a brother due to our differences in beliefs (he’s a fundamentalist, I’m an atheist — we’re like Dr. Cox and his annoying sister Paige on Scrubs, only we don’t reconcile at the end of the episode). She expressed disgust at the way they were treating me, and how people treat atheists in general. She told me she felt bad for what my family did to me, which is nice coming from a devout Catholic like Martha.
She then came out to me as a bisexual, which I, being an LGBT supporter, certainly had no problem with. Then we spent the rest of the gray-skied afternoon walking amidst the trees, talking about boys and singing show tunes, the same friends we always were.
The whole thing went much better than I’d expected.